The other day a friend of mine gave me one of the best comments I’ve ever received. She said that she looks up to our marriage and that we set an example. I’ve never received such a complement like that before and was very humbling for me.
Lindsay and I continually work on our marriage and full headedly believe that our marriage is partially the result of our association with World Wide Dreambuilders and the people in this organization we hang around with that also have great marriages. I won’t say it’s 100% because of this because you still need to apply what you see, hear and learn and I think we do a good job at that. Lets just say at the highly unlikely event that we end up leaving or quitting, our marriage will be better for it because of what we’ve learnt from the people and great organization we were a part of. That won’t happen because we’ve seen example after example in succession of how this works at continually building a great marriage and family life. Nothing anyone says can shake my tree because we are experiencing it first hand and seeing the fruits of our labour.
Something I’ve learnt over the years, outside of World Wide Dreambuilders and in World Wide Dreambuilders is that you NEED to work on your marriage constantly. The minute you take your marriage for granted or start to slack is when you start having problems. A great first book I’d recommend is The 5 Love Languages which I am about 1/3 rd the way through. Just understanding exactly what Lindsay loves will do wonders for our marriage. She’s already told me her love languages so it makes sense, but to read the book really hits home and makes it sink in even more.
As much as the comment makes me feel good we still have to keep working hard at our marriage and try to set that example in a day where marriages are falling apart more often then in the past. I could be wrong but that’s just my perception from what I’ve seen in my life and in the news. I have to give a shout out to Bridgett and she made a great comment a few posts back about her take on marriages and divorce.
Excellent book!
We got a “coles notes” version of the book with the marriage course we took before we got married and we still refer to it when discussing our “Love Languages”. Speaking of Coles Notes… weren’t those the best thing ever in high school… I mean who REALLY understands Shakespeare.
Anyways back to marriages… not everyone loves or feels loved the same way so it’s great that you are taking the time and not assuming that Lindsay’s love language is the same as yours. Wifey and I are coming up on 5 years (5 years on Lindsay’s freedom day actually!!) and it’s amazing how you think you can’t love someone anymore then you already do then all of a sudden BOOM it’s a whole new level.
Keep up the good work and always remember that no matter what… you can be a better husband!!
Thanks Colin. We look at your marriage as being one of those rocks as well. You guys have also have a great marriage and a great family. Two Kids, Two Dogs, lol what could be better? A third kid! haha