5 Years

IMG_3093resizedMy wife and I have been married for 5 years today.  I remember the day like it was yesterday, warm sunny beach down in St. Lucia at the beautiful Sandals Regency, now La Toc.  Fast forward five years and we’ve come along way.  We’ve been blessed with a beautiful son, have paid down enormous amounts of debt and are debt free with cash on hand, we’ve been witness to a lot of friends who’ve also had babies, a wife that has the choice to work or not, and most importantly through the last five years we’ve created a solid foundation in our marriage. We really do owe the success of our marriage to hard work at keeping our marriage strong and by surrounding ourselves with people that also are great examples of marriages.

I’m pumped at what the next 5 years will bring, more kids, continued success with our Amway business, even more savings, upgraded living situation next month, trips, a huge family reunion, weddings, moving to Kelowna, having the choice to step away from my job, and the list goes on. 

I’m very proud of my wife and what she’s accomplished over the last five years.  I’m more in love with her today than I was the day we were married.  She inspires me to become a better man, father and server of other men and for that I’m eternally grateful.  I look back at the last five years and I cannot think of anything I would take back and that includes going into what I’d call an almost bankrupt state.  We’ve become stronger and wiser for it and can use that to share our story with those we meet. 

Five years these days seems like a lot of time yet at the same time it’s not.  What’s sad is there is so much divorce these days where people potentially take the easy way out and don’t necessarily work through those problems.  I can’t say everything can be worked out but I do believe there is to high of a divorce rate and that needs to change.  People taking marriage more serious and actually living the commitment of marriage and being those examples in society is part of what will help change that I believe.  Crazy or not, I believe things like that can be changed.

I’ll end off with this bit of advice that has helped me through the last five years.  Don’t ever take your spouse for granted, tell them you love them every single day and at minimum before you go to bed, and always make sure to not sweat the small stuff.  Oh and read “The Five Love Languages:)

Having an Impact

I’ve often mentioned how we want to have an impact on people and our business that utilizes the Amway Business Opportunity and World Wide Dreambuilders allows us to accomplish that in so many ways.  Last night was just another reminder of the real impact we have on people we are in business with and how those people can actually in turn impact us. 

A couple in our business got married yesterday late afternoon at the MaGrath Mansion on Ada Boulevard here in Edmonton which is one of the prime spots for outdoor weddings.  Such a beautiful and elegant setting which was a total fit for this couple and highlighted the amazing people they are.  This is a couple that has taken a lot of values from World Wide Dreambuilders and incorporated them directly into their lives and it is apparent with how in love they are, how much they smile all the time (I don’t know any other couple that smiles this much), and how solid of a relationship they have.  They’ve mentioned many times that the path they were on before getting involved with WWDB was a path that would have taken them an additional 4 to 5 years before getting married.  While that may be fine for some people, after seeing great examples of some pretty solid marriages they decided there was no reason to wait that long and well the rest is history.

This couple is great at putting things into practice like paying for a wedding in cash and not going into debt for a wedding.  I won’t say how else things are going for them financially but making decisions like this will lead them into a debt free lifestyle very soon.  We are very proud of them and others on our team that are doing these same types of decisions.  There are a few more weddings coming up in our business and all of them are being paid for in cash.  Much different from the norm that you see where people go into HUGE amounts of debt for one day.

I mentioned earlier how this couple impacts us, they impact us by inspiring us to smile each and every single day as they always do.  They inspire us to continue to work on our marriage and express love like they do.  This is just one of many examples this couple and other couples and singles on our team inspire and impact us.  Its those qualities of people that inspire us that we look for when building our team.  We don’t just want to impact people ourselves but we want to be impacted and inspired from the people we work with.  That’s why we don’t just “sign” people up for the sake of it. 

Once dinner was done the speeches started and it was at this point we saw the impact we and other upline have made on this couple.  To be invited to their wedding and reception along with family and friends is a great honour and we were very blessed to be part of the day.  They wanted us to be there because we are like family to them and have helped them through many tough decisions and directions in life.  It was quite apparent the impact we made when not only my wife and me were mentioned in a special shout out but quite a few of their upline as well in front of family and friends.  While their family and friends may never really understand the impact, they do and I am so proud to see them married and starting their life off in such a positive way.

Our business while rudimentary is an online webstore however there are so many intangible things that comes with what we do.  It’s the system of World Wide Dreambuilders (WWDB) that helps us create life long friends and people who inspire us.  I cannot even begin to explain the things I’ve received from this amazing association but I can tell you I thank God every day for our life, where we are and where we are going.  I’m glad that He was able to remove my cloud of scepticism after 5 months to allow me to see something I would not have normally seen.  Sometimes what we are looking for doesn’t come in the packages we expect. Something I think all of us need to keep in mind when opportunities present themselves.

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Moving Forward

MovingForwardAfter attending the Duncan Family Reunion this weekend I know what we need to do in order to secure my freedom and give my family what they deserve, a full time dad.  I won’t lie, these major functions definitely have a motivational component to them and you know what? There isn’t anything wrong with that.  What’s the other option?  They bring some broke person who’s in debt up to his neck to motivate us?  They bring a divorced couple on stage to motivate us to have a great marriage? LOL umm no thanks.

Yeah, there is some motivation, who cares, sometimes people need some motivation and I’m fine with that.  To be honest I really really needed this function and needed the pick up as do a lot of people.  Life can get in the way and sometimes take you off track from whatever goals you have and its awesome to see how World Wide has strategically placed their functions to get things back on track.

Along with the motivational components, I wrote down 6 pages of notes and tidbits that I’ll take back to my wife and also use myself.  As my wife says you never know where your going to get that nugget and this weekend I got a bunch of nuggets to apply directly to our marriage and also our business.  It’s not always about your business, sometimes you’ll get tidbits for your marriage, for your family or even for your finances.  That’s what’s great about the World Wide Dreambuilders system, they stand on traditional values and hold those above all.  For those who are not close to it and only see it superficially, won’t know what I’m talking about. 

It was really cool this weekend to see the HUGE Canadian movement that is exploding.  New Silvers, New Platinum’s, new Rubies, new Double Eagle Rubies, new Founders Sapphires, new Founders Double Eagle Rubies (Founders Ruby is the hardest pin to reach in Amway by the way, harder than Diamond and that’s our Sponsors!), new Emeralds, and new Founders Emeralds.  To say Canada is exploding would be an understatement.  This is just one of the reasons why we’ve secured our very own major function in Edmonton next year, Spring Leadership 2012 will be in Edmonton! What’s funny is that people from the US kept asking myself and other leaders in the Canadian organizations what makes us different, why are we growing so fast.  The answer is simple, we are ALL-IN and don’t compromise.  We pay the price and because of that the prize is the growth and huge successes we are having.  It’s nothing hard, just simple success principals.  As they say a rising tide raises all ships! New Canadian Diamonds are coming soon!

Anyway it’s been a great weekend and I cannot wait to head home first thing early tomorrow morning to see my wife and son.  It was a tough weekend being away from them but they understand the reason for being here and I understand what is needed to move our business forward and we will move forward between now and Free Enterprise Day’s in November. 

60th Wedding Anniversary

Last week I was sent some pictures from my Grandmother’s Sister and Husband who recently celebrated their 60th Wedding Anniversary.  60 YEARS!?! Holy crap that is a long time and something you do NOT see very often these days.  I’m so proud to have family members who can be that example of what a long and happy marriage can be.  I don’t often get to see these family members as it seems to be only at family reunions every 3-4 years but from what I know, they have an absolutely wonderful marriage and have withstood the test of time.  I’m sure they’ve been through some thick and thin areas as do most couples but it’s how those events are handled that makes a marriage of 60 years work. 

I am inspired by this and look to be the same kind of example for not only my kids but my kids kids and hope they too live out long happy marriages.  Congrats Helen and Bob, all the best to you guys as you move into your 61st year!

Lots of Love!

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All the cards and letters received from friends and family as well as multiple levels of the Government including the Queen of England

 

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A message from the queen on the celebration of their 60th wedding anniversary. Reads “I am delighted to hear that you are celebrating the diamond anniversary of your wedding and send you my warmest congratulations and good wishes on this splendid occasion.” Says that the queen personally reviewed this message before it was sent off

Congrats Sjoerd and Candace

This afternoon my wife and I were fortunate to attend some good friends of ours wedding, Sjoerd and Candace.  Two amazing people who have both found each other’s soul mates and will now continue their lives committed to each other in marriage.  Gotta love Love.  All the best to the newlywed couple!

 

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