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5 Years

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IMG_3093resizedMy wife and I have been married for 5 years today.  I remember the day like it was yesterday, warm sunny beach down in St. Lucia at the beautiful Sandals Regency, now La Toc.  Fast forward five years and we’ve come along way.  We’ve been blessed with a beautiful son, have paid down enormous amounts of debt and are debt free with cash on hand, we’ve been witness to a lot of friends who’ve also had babies, a wife that has the choice to work or not, and most importantly through the last five years we’ve created a solid foundation in our marriage. We really do owe the success of our marriage to hard work at keeping our marriage strong and by surrounding ourselves with people that also are great examples of marriages.

I’m pumped at what the next 5 years will bring, more kids, continued success with our Amway business, even more savings, upgraded living situation next month, trips, a huge family reunion, weddings, moving to Kelowna, having the choice to step away from my job, and the list goes on. 

I’m very proud of my wife and what she’s accomplished over the last five years.  I’m more in love with her today than I was the day we were married.  She inspires me to become a better man, father and server of other men and for that I’m eternally grateful.  I look back at the last five years and I cannot think of anything I would take back and that includes going into what I’d call an almost bankrupt state.  We’ve become stronger and wiser for it and can use that to share our story with those we meet. 

Five years these days seems like a lot of time yet at the same time it’s not.  What’s sad is there is so much divorce these days where people potentially take the easy way out and don’t necessarily work through those problems.  I can’t say everything can be worked out but I do believe there is to high of a divorce rate and that needs to change.  People taking marriage more serious and actually living the commitment of marriage and being those examples in society is part of what will help change that I believe.  Crazy or not, I believe things like that can be changed.

I’ll end off with this bit of advice that has helped me through the last five years.  Don’t ever take your spouse for granted, tell them you love them every single day and at minimum before you go to bed, and always make sure to not sweat the small stuff.  Oh and read “The Five Love Languages” :)

Marriage Compliment

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The other day a friend of mine gave me one of the best comments I’ve ever received.  She said that she looks up to our marriage and that we set an example.  I’ve never received such a complement like that before and was very humbling for me.

Lindsay and I continually work on our marriage and full headedly believe that our marriage is partially the result of our association with World Wide Dreambuilders and the people in this organization we hang around with that also have great marriages.  I won’t say it’s 100% because of this because you still need to apply what you see, hear and learn and I think we do a good job at that.  Lets just say at the highly unlikely event that we end up leaving or quitting, our marriage will be better for it because of what we’ve learnt from the people and great organization we were a part of.  That won’t happen because we’ve seen example after example in succession of how this works at continually building a great marriage and family life.  Nothing anyone says can shake my tree because we are experiencing it first hand and seeing the fruits of our labour.

Something I’ve learnt over the years, outside of World Wide Dreambuilders and in World Wide Dreambuilders is that you NEED to work on your marriage constantly.  The minute you take your marriage for granted or start to slack is when you start having problems.  A great first book I’d recommend is The 5 Love Languages which I am about 1/3 rd the way through.  Just understanding exactly what Lindsay loves will do wonders for our marriage.  She’s already told me her love languages so it makes sense, but to read the book really hits home and makes it sink in even more. 

As much as the comment makes me feel good we still have to keep working hard at our marriage and try to set that example in a day where marriages are falling apart more often then in the past.  I could be wrong but that’s just my perception from what I’ve seen in my life and in the news.  I have to give a shout out to Bridgett and she made a great comment a few posts back about her take on marriages and divorce.

Serving Your Partner

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Today I decided to take the day off and was able to sleep in and just recover from last week.  When planning my day out I thought to myself you know we’ve been pretty busy the last month and the condo needs a good cleaning.  So I took it upon myself to really clean the condo from top to bottom, almost a spring cleaning.  This isn’t something we do every week, we usually do a good clean on the weekend.  However like I said we’ve been busy and sometimes we’ve been a bit snippy and grouchy towards each other because of it. 

Because I know one of my wife’s love language is “acts of service” I decided to make part of my day cleaning up the condo.  Not because I need brownie points, but because I know my wife loves when I do this and it makes her happy.  Its one way that I can really give back and serve my partner and really show that I know her and what she likes. 

So while there are many things that I do for my wife, I know this is one of the big ones that really does make her feel good.  I would never have known that until she read this book.  I would have kept doing other things to make her happy but never know exactly what did.  I think she was also quite surprised when she read this book.

This is just one of the many ways of how we continually work on our relationship and one of the key things that World Wide Dreambuilders teaches.  We are in an amazing business and for a business such as this that cares so much about family life is really really awesome.  Try finding that in your 9-5 job! :)

 Find out your love lanugages here! http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/

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